Arrogance Can Cause Zeal To Be Added To Negotiations

When negotiating, how do you respond to arrogance? Do you use arrogance as a ploy in your negotiations? When arrogance is infused into a negotiation, it can add zeal to the process. It can also cause the negotiation to wander into unexpected territory.

When confronted by arrogance, some negotiators shrink, while others become emboldened. To contemplate the usage of arrogance in a negotiation, and how to combat it, consider the following factors.

Weighing the use of arrogance as a strategy:
In the planning stage of your negotiation, ask yourself if being arrogant will achieve the advantage you’ll seek during the negotiation. If the answer is yes, play the role of someone that’s arrogant. If you feel uncomfortable playing such a role, don’t fret. In a negotiation, everyone plays a role. Just be sure to consider the mental makeup of the other negotiator. If you’re not sure how such a stance will be perceived, avoid using arrogance as a strategy.

Using arrogance as a ploy:
When confronted by arrogance, some negotiators will become meek and easy to maneuver, while others will become hardened in their position and immobile.
If the negotiation is not progressing significantly, and the other negotiator is someone that withers at the sign of authority, you may consider using arrogance to influence the progression of the negotiation. With this type of individual, you’ll more than likely receive little push-back about your persona. If on the other hand, you’re dealing with a strong willed individual and your negotiation position is tenuous, you may consider being more tolerable in your persona and exchange of information.

Combating arrogance:
Negotiating with arrogant people can be daunting. At times, you may have the desire to become combative. Such an emotion can cause you to lose focus on your strategy for the negotiation. When dealing with arrogance in a negotiation, recognize it for what it is and don’t be influenced by it. If you’re using arrogance as a ploy, be sure it’s the appropriate tool for the task you’re trying to accomplish.

When used strategically, arrogance can be the catalyst that progresses a negotiation towards the point of completion more expediently. On the other hand, if it’s misused, it can serve as the catapult that sends the negotiation to unexpected places. Just make sure you observe the influence that the use of arrogance has on the negotiation and be prepared to adjust quickly, if you’re not receiving the expected outcome you seek… and everything will be right with the world. Remember, you’re always negotiating.

The Negotiation Tips Are…

• When negotiating, don’t be pushed into becoming a living corpse, if arrogance becomes a strategy used against you. Have a plan prepared to combat such tactics.

• If you negotiate in a team environment, don’t become the protagonist against someone that’s being arrogant, unless you’ve predetermined that’s the best course of action to adopt.

• When using arrogance as a ploy never put yourself in a position that requires you to back down. If you have to back down, exact a toll from the other negotiator to do so.

Presentation Success ROAD Map

Imagine having a simple and memorable 4-step roadmap for presentation success. Would you like to get your hands on it? I bet you would!

I was just looking at The 2010 Social Media Marketing Benchmark Report from Marketing Sherpa. (I’m not an affiliate for them or for the report, just in case you were wondering. 

But something in their email caught my eye: the acronym of ROAD. And I got to thinking.

You could use similar categories to develop a ROAD Map for your business or sales presentation. These basic buckets work for any type of presentation. Social media. Face-to-face client pitches. Sales presentations.

The four categories spelling ROAD, as outlined by Marketing Sherpa are:





Here’s my spin on the ROAD Map for presenting. I often use the concept of a roadmap to describe why presentation storyboarding is so powerful. A storyboard is essentially a roadmap of your presentation.

There are many ways to look at the big picture, milestones, and details. Working with a storyboard is the fastest way to see where you are going – and how you want to get there. 

Let’s look at how each of these areas can help you get focused and get results.

R = Research

Focus on your target audience. Find out about their roles, responsibilities, needs and history. As you investigate, be sure to also take note of specific language, issues and problems your audience is facing. When you do this, you can use what you’re finding for this audience to get a head start on presenting to similar audiences.

O = Objectives

What is your objective in presenting? Do you want to get your foot in the door? Are you hoping to seal a deal? Do you want to target decision makers or influence influencers?

In every presentation, you’ll want to refine your objectives. The clearer you are going into your talk or speech, the better you can focus the outcomes.

Similarly, it’s essential to understand why your audience is attending. Are they interested in information gathering? Are they coming with an urgent need? By understanding objectives from both perspectives, you can tailor your presentation to match the situation.

A = Actions

A clear and specific plan of action will help you prepare and give an exceptional presentation. This includes a plan of action about actions. Know what you want your audience to do – before you ever enter the room.

This is a lot like goal setting. If you know where you want to go, and what action you want your audience to take, you can organize your entire presentation to ignite this action.

D = Deadlines

I adapted the “D” from Devices to Deadlines.

Nothing inspires action like a deadline! This is true to get that old procrastination habit out of the way. If you’ve been stalling on preparing your presentation, set a tighter deadline. You know what I’m talking about.

There’s nothing, and I mean nothing, like the creativity that comes at the 11th hour.

The same is true for your clients and prospects. If you create deadlines for action, you will ignite decisive action.

If you are looking for a proven ROAD Map for your presentation, this is an easy way to sketch out the milestones to success.

Where Do You Spend Your Time? Past, Present or Future?

There are three places where you can live your life:

1. In the past – People who have regrets and are “stuck” thinking about things that cannot be corrected often experience depression. Some therapists believe that anger turned inward becomes depression. So, when you combine past hurts with anger but pretend that everything is okay you are setting yourself up for trouble! It is like trying to hold a beach under water. You put all your energy into trying to hold it down but that won’t last for very long. You can try to hold your emotions down but when they pop up everyone, including you will likely be surprised by their intensity.

2. In the future – Fear, control, perfectionism, worry and anxiety are all cousins. Sometimes people focus all their energy on what hasn’t even happened yet. Their fear causes them to want to control things and often leads to perfectionism, worry and anxiety. “What if… ?” is a frequent phrase used by individuals who tend to focus on the future.

3. In the present – Sometimes today is filled with boredom and loneliness. Sometimes it seems stressful and challenging. The best way to deal with the present, is to have all your wits about you so that you can choose interesting ways to address what is in front of you. When your thoughts, feelings and behaviours are devoted to the past or the future, you are robbing today! You cannot reach your potential and make good choices if you are trying to resolve issues from the past or predict the future.

Over the years I have watched people who get into trouble and realize that it is frequently because they have difficulty living in the present. Some focus on what “should” have happened or what “should” happen instead of on what “is” happening. They blame others for slights that occurred decades ago and unfortunately, they are usually the only one who remembers this. They have difficulty forgiving others or themselves and this prevents them from letting go and moving forward in a healthy manner.

Others think so much about all the things that “might” happen in the future that they are unable to enjoy what is going on right now. They expect the worst from relatives, the weather, government and a myriad of things that they not only cannot control but might actually never happen.

So how can you live in the present when you mind reverts to past injustices or future threats?
1. Create a peaceful environment. Organize your life in a way that incorporates positive blessings such as calm music, pleasant activities and healthy food.
2. Protect yourself from toxic triggers. Turn the television off so that you aren’t inundated with negative news. Maintain good boundaries with people who are always draining you. Don’t let their crisis become your crisis. Take breaks from the outside world by not always answering your phone or having your door open.
3. Say what you want (not what you don’t want). Write and practice using affirmations.
4. Seek professional help to get you on the right track!